We all yearn for that long-lasting, passionate fairytale relationship we grew up watching on the television and seeing on the cover of magazines, but it isn’t always as easy as it seems. After all, they are called ‘movies’ and ‘stories’ for a reason. However, that doesn’t mean that these types of relationships and men that we see other people (or characters) have don’t exist, or that it isn’t possible for you to achieve the exact same thing. It just takes a little bit of skill and newfound perspective and you can make any man insanely attracted to you. From flirting techniques to dating advice, I’ve got you covered.
Fall In Love With Yourself First
The key to any successful relationship starts with the relationship you have with yourself. As the saying goes, you cannot love someone else if you do not love yourself. Alternatively, you cannot be fully loved to the potential you deserve if you do not fully love yourself – And you’re great, so let’s put an end to that with some self-love, but not just the bath bombs and at-home spa types. Truly dive into your inner self and find all of the things that you love about yourself, and work on eliminating or improving the things that you don’t. This rule can be applied to big and small situations: if you don’t feel confident, go on a shopping spree and pick up some items that make you feel amazing. If you have trust issues, start journaling your way through them. Let go of the crap and embrace all of the good that is within you.
Have Your Own Life
Men love a good chase. It’s in their DNA. It isn’t just some misogynist, ‘boys will be boys’ advice that needs to be retired. Men are wired to chase, and when they feel like a woman is sitting around just waiting for them, they will lose interest. However, when a woman has their own life, they are immediately more attracted to them. Show the guy you’re interested in that you, of course, love his company but that you also enjoy doing things that don’t involve him as well. Sending the signal that you don’t need him will almost immediately make him think he needs you and that’s what we’re going for here ladies, right?
Be Fun and a Joy to Be Around
If you have already established your own life (and love affair with yourself), then you likely have a pretty good idea of what you like to do and find enjoyable about yourself. Bring those things to the table. Regardless of whether someone is an introvert or an extravert, a blue-collar or a white-collar, everyone likes to be around someone who they enjoy and have fun with. So, ask yourself if you’re fun to be around. If the answer is no, ask yourself why not? Perhaps you’ll find that you often complain when out, have a negative opinion, or are always worrying about the next day instead of enjoying this one. There are all things that can be improved with some mindfulness techniques or by trying something new.
Flirt and Pheromones
Do you want to know what’s better than being fun? Flirting and pheromones. This playful little step can spike any man’s emotions, especially when you bring science in the mix. For example, playing with your hair can release certain pheromones that can positively affect your mood and sexuality. Pheromones can also trigger a variety of desirable responses in men, such as boosting their self-esteem, which will also increase the way they feel when around you (which takes care of the previous step too!). So, work up those pheromones. Find natural ways to release them, such as by playing with your hair, or wearing the perfect fragrance that accentuates your scent.
Smile Often, Laugh More
This dating tip is a pretty obvious one – you are more attractive when you smile and laugh. It kind of plays on the two previous tips: being fun, flirting and pheromones. Not only do studies show that the stronger the smile, the more attractive a face looks, smiling also gives off the carefree, fun attitude you want to have. Plus, it makes you feel good and when you feel good, you’re more confident and men love a confident woman.
Look Good Feel Good
I’d like to say that looks don’t matter, but we all know that they do. But they will only get you so far, so don’t focus all of your attention on this one tip. However, we can all agree that when we look good, we feel good. Play into this as much as you can – the man you want will obviously be more attracted to you physically when you look good, but the confidence you gain is also undeniably irresistible. So, treat yourself. Get your hair done at the salon. Go on a shopping trip. Make your teeth whiter. What it is that makes you ‘look good, feel good’, do that.
Your Secret Weapons
There are a couple of additional tips you can use to make the man you want to be attracted to you. Some of them will only work after the first couple of meetings, whereas others can be used on anyone, anytime and anywhere. For example, one of the most important rules is to know how to text (or what not to text so you don’t get ghosted). This attraction tip will only work once you have his number, obviously. However, something as simple as extending your vowels can be used at any given time to be more attractive with whoever you desire.
Some other secret weapons to try are:
- Compliment him (who doesn’t love a good compliment?)
- Manners, manners, manners (niceness is sexy)
- Open up with him a little bit more
- Initiate things more often (spark up that conversation!)
- Wear red
- Ask him for his help (this makes him feel worthy)
- Dress for the guy, not your girlfriends
- Make more eye contact
- Trust him more (if he deserves it, of course)
- Mirror his body language
- Make more physical contact (touch his leg, rub his arm, etc.)
- Keep your phone out of sight and out of your hands
Everyone wants that once-in-a-lifetime kind-of-life with a person who feels like your other half, including the key you’ve been eyeing. It’s something we all desire and can achieve – with and without any tips. Although, having a handful of helpful dating tips that are geared towards making men attracted to you certainly can’t hurt. The most important rule of all is to know what you bring to the table and if you aren’t sure what that is, these tips will also help you figure that out. Embrace that self-love and everything else will come into fruition.